Ramblings of a Young Mama

Saturday, January 18, 2014

Love Languages

So I was reading my best friend Jessica's blog the other day and she was talking about a book called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. I decided after reading her post that I needed to look into it. I'm a very curious person by nature, and I thought it would be interesting to find out both of our "love languages." With that being said I did just that.

In the book there is a questionnaire for both the wife and the husband, or the girlfriend and the boyfriend. It consists of 30 pairs of statements. You have to pick one of them in each pair. There was one or two that were difficult choices for me, but I did it and I got my results.

*drumroll please*

My love language is Physical Touch. This was no surprise to me as I am always reaching for his hand, waiting for him to hug me from behind, playing with his hair, snuggling into him or really doing anything to be close. In fact, I am always saying "love me honey," when I'm feeling like I need him close; and he does just that. He wraps his arms around me, or something of that nature.

Quality Time was next, followed by Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation and then Receiving Gifts. Nothing about this order really surprised me. Quality Time is very important to me and I try to make sure that we have some sort of alone, quality time everyday. Sometimes this is difficult with our crazy kiddos (he has an almost two year old that we have half of the time named Gavin <3 ) running around but it's important to us, so we make time. Acts of Service is third, and well I hate doing the dishes so I am always grateful when he does them for me after a long day of work. Words of Affirmation are lovely to hear as I'm sure anyone would say, but they aren't the highest on my list. Important yes, just not the most important. Lastly there is Receiving Gifts. I truly do not care what you can get for me, money can't buy happiness. That is that.

After I was finished doing it, I showed the husband one to Mike without telling him what it was (or telling him my scores), so I could get his love languages order. They were so eerily similar and that made me immensely happy. One more thing that were are in sync on. <3 His were as follows: Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service and then Receiving Gifts. We actually got the same number for Physical Touch! Basically he needs to hear how much I love him a little more than he wants me to do things for him. LOL! Everything else is the same! YAY!

Anywho, you should definitely check it out. If you are struggling in your relationship it could help you, and if you are happy in your relationship it could make it that much better ;)